The Power of Now

I am a control freak.  Always have been, and although I am trying daily to learn to relax and let things be as they will be, I suspect I will never completely rid myself of the desire to just think harder so I can make the world the bend to my will.  I have lived most of my life lost in my own thoughts, rehashing the past or rehearsing the future.  Getting out of my head is a struggle, and one I am still trying to master.  But when I am in right space, it is like breathing new air.

Everything gets easier.

I remember being younger and living in the now much more.  It seems to be one of those things that sort of fades in time.  Even when I was in college I think there were few real worries or concerns about the future.  I took chances, I made big choices, heck, I even moved to a different country without being too concerned about what might happen if it didn’t work out.  It wasn’t confidence that made the difference, nor poor judgement or irresponsible decision-making.  It was the fact that I was living in the now, taking things moment by moment.  Children do this naturally, and although we un-learn this skill, it can be rediscovered.

The power of re-learning to live this way is immense.  What it can do for us to be more fully present in our daily lives can not be underestimated. It brings calmness, focus, and creativity.  It helps us reconnect to the part of ourselves that is resourceful, clever, and uniquely human.  But modern life does not encourage this kind of mindset very often.  There are distractions and things to be done, places to go, moments to fill up with being busy.  This feeling of being in the now becomes the exception, rather than the rule.

For me, I know when I am moving away from the now because I can feel it.  My body reacts to the thoughts and emotions that come from moving away from now very quickly and clearly.  Anxiety, dizziness, insomnia, headaches – all signs that I’m drifting away from myself.  Getting back to my now is critical because I know I can’t be my best self for myself, my business, my family or my clients without connecting at the right place within myself. I simply must reconnect with the now in some way in order to stay focused and do good work.

Several of my clients are redefining their careers and/or building their own businesses.  When you start a journey like this, the now fades away so quickly sometimes.  We start to worry about the future, to try and plan until we’re comforted that it’s all going to work out (even though this is an illusion of control!), and tell ourselves stories about how great life will be “when we make it” to the end of our journey.

People are surprised sometimes when I tell them that the journey itself can be much more fun than the destination.  Having success is great, but really loving the journey and approaching it from a creative, playful place, as a child would, allows us to get in touch with the very essence of who we are.  It allows us to live authentically, with our own truth guiding us.  It is in this space that the power of now really shines through.  We get in touch with our true purpose this way, and instead of fretting about every choice we make about website hosting companies, accountants, and marketing strategies, we begin to see things as small pieces of the puzzle that they really are.  We let go of trying to control things, we let things begin to unravel the way they need to in order to lead us to our path.

Sure, you can build a business and be successful without living this way.  But it sure is a long hard slog of a journey!  Want to make it easier?  Get in touch with your now.  Remind yourself that right now, everything is okay.  You have what you need.  You are enough.  The universe is on your side.  And the world is waiting for the gifts only you can give.  Don’t let yourself get in the way of that!

Coaching Exercise – Today, try and stay present while you’re doing all the routine things in your life.  Don’t zone out when you’re making that morning cup of coffee, or while you’re getting ready for work.  Pay attention.  What do you hear around you?  What do you see?  What is your body telling you today?  Let the Now come to you in these moments and practice staying in the present.  Keep in tune with the reality of each moment!  Notice how much better you feel as you go about your day with this state of mind.

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This post is part of a blog hop series sponsored by students and graduate Coaches of ICA. Please hop on over to their posts and see what else you can learn about ”The Power of Now”

Esme Gosling – Money Coach

http://bit.ly/xu0bLi

Sandra Seibert – Joyful Growth Coach

http://joyfulgrowthcoach.com/2012/02/the-power-of-now-a-moment-of-stillness/

Renee Vos de Wael – Intuitive Coach

http://reneevosdewael.com/2012/02/20/is-the-power-now/

 Namrata Arora – Life and Career Coach for women in transitions

http://aboutcoaching.wordpress.com/2012/02/18/the-power-of-now/

Tracy Coan – Bodacious Possibilities

http://bodaciouspossibilities.com/2012/02/choose-you-choose-now/

Jayde Gilmore – Wings LifeCoaching

http://wingslifecoaching.tumblr.com/

Brandy Morris-Chaudhry – Illuminated Perspective

http://www.illuminatingpotential.com/

Nuria Lencina – Coachinu

http://coachinublog.com/2012/02/20/the-power-of-now/

Pamela Rudisill – In Sight Life Coaching

http://insightlifecoaching.co/2012/02/20/the-power-of-now/

Kenetha Stanton – Chrysalis Wellness

http://www.chrysalis-wellness.com/2012/02/20/the-power-of-now/

Louise Gray – Communication Coach, Learner Focused Coaching

http://learnerfocusedcoaching.com/2012/02/20/what-was-i-saying/

Jenn Brockman – Kick Ass Website Coach

http://kickasswebsitecoach.com/the-power-of-now

About Turning Stones Coaching and Consultancy

Rebecca Macfarlane is a coach, mentor and trainer helping people transition from traditional employment to a new kind of self-employment. She works exclusively with people who want to do good in the world and who are ready to embrace their true purpose in life. With 15 years of experience in writing business plans and helping public sector organizations be their best, she helps her clients build solid foundations, allowing them to focus on the creative dreaming that they need to do to inspire themselves and others to live a better kind of life.

Posted on 02/19/2012, in Coaching, Getting unstuck and tagged , . Bookmark the permalink. 14 Comments.

  1. Great words! It is important to talk about to enjoy the journey we’re on. Some times all the traveling takes over and we forget to look out of the window to see where we are at this moment. Thanks for reminding. Renee

  2. Thanks for the reminder that the journey is the important part. That is all that is in the now. I so often get so focused on the destination that I lose sight of the beauty of the journey.

  3. Great post! I am such a firm believer in the power of relishing in the journey.

  4. How powerful it is to remember to enjoy the journey and not worry so much about the destination! I want to not only enjoy the journey, but also be able to look back and remember it well. Thanks so much for this reminder, Rebecca!

  5. What a great post! You made me feel proud of myself. I realized that I live very much in the NOW. I guess this could be the result of having lived in 4 different countries and having planned so many different lives. Today I live with what I have. I do have a plan and I would like to get to my destination, of course, but I am not stuck on that. I am so ready to readjust as many times as it is necessary. I live the moment because I’ve learnt that this is the only thing that I really have. My life may turn around tomorrow and all my projects will have to change, and that’s ok. I will take my learning with me and start over. There’s nothing to lose. Life is a great teacher if you are a good student ready to listen and learn.

  6. Thank you so much for this inspiring post!

  7. I suppose it is much easier to be carefree when we know, as youth do, that we have our whole lives ahead of us. And the same is true no matter what our age: we still have the rest of our lives ahead of us. Interesting perspective to wonder what choices my 20 year old self would be making for me today!

  8. Very true, Esme…our memories of youth are “carefree” and yet, if you’d asked my 16 year old self, I certainly wouldn’t have described myself as carefree! It’s all relative, isn’t it? Today is all we have, so it’s best to try and live where we are, not in the past or the future. And we have to just make our best choices for now. As Oprah often says, we do out best with what we have and know now. When we know better, we do better.

  9. Thank YOU for that lovely comment and for stopping by! 🙂

  10. Thanks Nuria! I’m so glad you’re feeling proud of yourself – because you should be! You’re right that being an international citizen gives new perspectives on the now. When you are that far out of your comfort zone, you really have to get good at just embracing where you are at any given moment. I love your confidence in things always being ok. You’re inspiring with your ability to just let it all go…there is nothing to lose! Keep it up!

  11. Thank you for the great comment, Pamela! Finding more joy is always a good thing, and it’s the path to real creativity and success. Keep loving the steps! They are taking you past some awesome scenery to enjoy. 🙂

  12. Thanks for the comment Brandy! I’m so glad you stopped by. 🙂

  13. Absolutely, Kenetha! There is a lot of beauty out there and all it takes is an instant to open up and really SEE it. We sometimes just have to give yourselves permission to let it be seen.

  14. Thanks for the comment, Renee! We miss so much when we don’t look out that window. It makes it harder to really know where we are in the journey, doesn’t it? My window is getting lots of viewing today! I’m pretty certain there’s some great direction, inspiration and guidance out there for me that I would have otherwise missed!

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