The Power of Now
I am a control freak. Always have been, and although I am trying daily to learn to relax and let things be as they will be, I suspect I will never completely rid myself of the desire to just think harder so I can make the world the bend to my will. I have lived most of my life lost in my own thoughts, rehashing the past or rehearsing the future. Getting out of my head is a struggle, and one I am still trying to master. But when I am in right space, it is like breathing new air.
Everything gets easier.
I remember being younger and living in the now much more. It seems to be one of those things that sort of fades in time. Even when I was in college I think there were few real worries or concerns about the future. I took chances, I made big choices, heck, I even moved to a different country without being too concerned about what might happen if it didn’t work out. It wasn’t confidence that made the difference, nor poor judgement or irresponsible decision-making. It was the fact that I was living in the now, taking things moment by moment. Children do this naturally, and although we un-learn this skill, it can be rediscovered.
The power of re-learning to live this way is immense. What it can do for us to be more fully present in our daily lives can not be underestimated. It brings calmness, focus, and creativity. It helps us reconnect to the part of ourselves that is resourceful, clever, and uniquely human. But modern life does not encourage this kind of mindset very often. There are distractions and things to be done, places to go, moments to fill up with being busy. This feeling of being in the now becomes the exception, rather than the rule.
For me, I know when I am moving away from the now because I can feel it. My body reacts to the thoughts and emotions that come from moving away from now very quickly and clearly. Anxiety, dizziness, insomnia, headaches – all signs that I’m drifting away from myself. Getting back to my now is critical because I know I can’t be my best self for myself, my business, my family or my clients without connecting at the right place within myself. I simply must reconnect with the now in some way in order to stay focused and do good work.
Several of my clients are redefining their careers and/or building their own businesses. When you start a journey like this, the now fades away so quickly sometimes. We start to worry about the future, to try and plan until we’re comforted that it’s all going to work out (even though this is an illusion of control!), and tell ourselves stories about how great life will be “when we make it” to the end of our journey.
People are surprised sometimes when I tell them that the journey itself can be much more fun than the destination. Having success is great, but really loving the journey and approaching it from a creative, playful place, as a child would, allows us to get in touch with the very essence of who we are. It allows us to live authentically, with our own truth guiding us. It is in this space that the power of now really shines through. We get in touch with our true purpose this way, and instead of fretting about every choice we make about website hosting companies, accountants, and marketing strategies, we begin to see things as small pieces of the puzzle that they really are. We let go of trying to control things, we let things begin to unravel the way they need to in order to lead us to our path.
Sure, you can build a business and be successful without living this way. But it sure is a long hard slog of a journey! Want to make it easier? Get in touch with your now. Remind yourself that right now, everything is okay. You have what you need. You are enough. The universe is on your side. And the world is waiting for the gifts only you can give. Don’t let yourself get in the way of that!
Coaching Exercise – Today, try and stay present while you’re doing all the routine things in your life. Don’t zone out when you’re making that morning cup of coffee, or while you’re getting ready for work. Pay attention. What do you hear around you? What do you see? What is your body telling you today? Let the Now come to you in these moments and practice staying in the present. Keep in tune with the reality of each moment! Notice how much better you feel as you go about your day with this state of mind.
This post is part of a blog hop series sponsored by students and graduate Coaches of ICA. Please hop on over to their posts and see what else you can learn about ”The Power of Now”
Esme Gosling – Money Coach
Sandra Seibert – Joyful Growth Coach
Renee Vos de Wael – Intuitive Coach
Namrata Arora – Life and Career Coach for women in transitions
Tracy Coan – Bodacious Possibilities
Jayde Gilmore – Wings LifeCoaching
Brandy Morris-Chaudhry – Illuminated Perspective
Nuria Lencina – Coachinu
Pamela Rudisill – In Sight Life Coaching
Kenetha Stanton – Chrysalis Wellness
Louise Gray – Communication Coach, Learner Focused Coaching
Jenn Brockman – Kick Ass Website Coach